Believe in the spiritual gift of goodbye
As I sit at my kitchen table I think of all the things with which people struggle, trying to turn loose and let go. Usually, it is something that’s not worth having any way. So I gather my thoughts and began to write.
I ask myself, “Could this article help anyone as much as it has helped me?” Let’s give it a try.
There are people who can walk away from you, and hear me when I tell you this, when people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don’t want to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you or staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.
When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left. The Bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been for us, no doubt they would have continued with us. (1 John 2:19)
People leave you because they are not joined to you, and if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay. Let them go, and it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over, so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead.
You’ve got to know when it’s dead. You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of goodbye. It’s the 10th spiritual gift; I believe in goodbye. It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have. He’ll give it to me, and if it takes too much sweat, I don’t need it.
Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!
If you are holding on to something that doesn’t belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to, let it go.
If you are holding on to past hurts and pains, let it go.
If someone can’t treat you right, love you back, and see your worth, let it go.
If someone has angered you, let it go.
If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge, let it go.
If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction, let it go.
If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents, let it go.
If you have a bad attitude, let it go.
If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better, let it go.
If you’re stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to new lever in Him, let it go.
If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship, let it go.
If you keep trying to help someone who won’t even try to help himself, let it go.
If you’re feeling depressed and stressed, let it go.
If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and God is saying “take your hands off of it,” then you need to, let it go.
The battle is the Lord’s!
Thelma Johnson is a Natchez resident.