The Natchez Democrat

Posted on October 6 at 3:17 p.m.

ms-girl, if more women were like you, then domestic violence wouldn't be heard of nearly as much. I would do the same thing now, but I thank God, I don't live with an a**hole now. Hope your sister will take some advice from you. Don't give up on her and let her know you are there for her always.

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Posted on October 6 at 1 p.m.

theone333, I hope you stick to what you just said. Please don't go back. He will only get worse, I know, I lived it for 20 years. And the last 10 were the worst. I also ran over my ex one time trying to get away from him. But, I only ran over his foot and it didn't even break it (dang it)haha. I didn't drive over it on purpose, but he was trying to keep me from leaving. He did try to run over me on purpose one night. I had to hide behind trees in the yard as he drove around like a maniac trying to find me to hit me. And there were even worse things that he did to me.... I could go on and on but I won't . Just stay strong and stay away from him. Don't ever feel sorry for him, or you might end up sorry yourself.

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Posted on October 6 at 12:48 p.m.

kpage, I totally agree that people don't understand why you don't just leave. Some women do leave right away (Thank God). But most don't. Now that I'm out of the violence, I can also ask, "why don't she just leave", but then I think about it, "hey you did the same thing." Then I wonder how I put up with it at all and I really get mad at myself. I think there needs to be more information available to women (and men) about how to get out of those bad relationships. Things like- where you can go to be safe, about childcare, about a job, but mostly being safe. They need to know that the abuser can not get to them. That is what I was afraid of the most. I usually left town and a couple times the state to get away from him so that he wouldn't find us. But, like a idiot I would let him calm down, he would cry and I'd feel sorry for HIM and I could come home again. Of course he always said it would never happen again and he just loved me so much and couldn't live without me.
Well, when I left the last time, he said he was gonna kill himself if I didn't come back and he even said he had a gun to his head and was fixing to do it. I said, "I don't want you to, but if that's what you want to do then go ahead" and I hung up the phone. Of course he didn't kill himself. I know a lot of men do kill themselves, but women need to realize it is not their fault. They way I felt about it is....better you than me!!
We stay for all kinds of crazy reasons. I know I did.

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Posted on October 5 at 1:11 p.m.

I think that some of you may have gotten confused as to who rattlesnake was saying is a "redneck". She is talking about my husband now. He is the redneck decribed in kpage latter part of her definition, opening doors, tipping hats, saying maam, etc. He is just as country as country can be and will never change, and I don't want him to. I'm not sure of the true meaning of "redneck".
I don't really think he's a redneck, he's just my "Knight in cutoff sleeves shirt" haha and I love him.

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Posted on October 5 at 10:32 a.m.

I don't always believe it's true that if you lived in an abusive relationship you will end up in one. Not always.
I had 2 children in mine and my daughter married a good young man that would never think of hurting her. I would kill him if he did. My son, on the other hand, is just like his sorry daddy. Both of my kids knew it was wrong and didn't like it one bit. I don't know what it is about it that makes some people do this. I now have a 5 year old son that will not have to go through this and he will not even know what domestic violence is. (Not in our home anyway)

What does domestic violence have anything to do with being gay or lesbian?

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Posted on October 5 at 6:51 a.m.

rattlesnake I'm not sure who you are, but if you know my husband you know he's not perfect, (but who is) but he is not abusive to me. I love him and I know he loves me. And thanks for the comment. I want to know who you are. I would love to talk to your daughter.

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Posted on October 4 at 8:21 p.m.

sister_love I am so glad that you are there for your sister. Please stay there for her. Try your best to talk her into staying away from him. He will not stop abusing her. I was married for 20 years and it only got worse. It will only get worse for her too. I also have 2 sister that were there for me and I am so thankful for them.

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Posted on October 4 at 4:10 p.m.

Thanks destiny, but you should try again. Not all men are abusive. Don't let your ex keep you from living the life that you deserve to have.

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Posted on October 4 at 10:58 a.m.

I can't agree with that being the reason for someone being a lesbian. It never crossed my mind to find comfort in another woman. I knew there had to be plenty of good, non-abusive men out there, and I found one. And very quickly, I might add.

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Posted on October 4 at 10:02 a.m.

mommyfo3, try to talk to this person about it. Let them know that they do not have to live like that and shouldn't. Let them know you will help them. Tell them don't be afraid to get out and stay out. Call the shelter for abused women also, they can surely help. Just let them know it is a better way of life than living in fear.....I know.

Rocafella, I agree that you should stop it the first time even if it means leaving, because it will happen again. I also thought he loved me.....How wrong....
I do blame myself for allowing to continue because I did not leave sooner.

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