Father-daughter duo grow together
Published 12:00 am Monday, January 3, 2011
NATCHEZ — Single father Patrick Green, 27, said he asks his daughter three questions each day.
And Green said he makes sure Jordyn, 8, correctly responds, “Me,” to each question.
“I make her answer, ‘Who’s the prettiest girl in the world? Who’s the smartest girl in the world?’ and ‘Who can do anything she wants (in the future,)’” Green said.
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Green said building his daughter’s confidence at an early age and showing her how much he loves her will hopefully help her grow into a successful grown woman one day.
“I don’t want my daughter to be another statistic or 16 years old and pregnant” Green said.
His method has already proven successful because Jordyn is an honor student and member of the SOAR program at Frazier Elementary.
When The Dart landed on Coral Avenue last week, the father-daughter duo was enjoying some couch time together and watching the Disney Channel on TV.
Green said he has loved raising his only little girl, who stays with him on the weekends and during the week when Jordyn’s mother has work or is busy.
“It’s beautiful,” he said of raising a girl.
Green said he explained to Jordyn why he constantly showers her with compliments and makes sure she believes in herself.
“I let her know, the reasons I tell her ‘You’re beautiful,’ is so that she gets her security from me, and not the first person who tells her that,” Green said.
Green said although Jordyn can have an attitude occasionally, she is a good daughter and a good companion, as well.
“She’s pretty cool I’m not going to lie,” Green said.
Green said he and Jordyn are always together when he is taking care of her, even if it is just to watch TV or playing Nintendo Wii.
“Sometimes I would kick his butt,” Jordyn said.
Green laughed at his daughter’s wit and grabbed her for a hug.
Green said he is often surprised with how well Jordyn holds up her end in conversations, and he can tell that she absorbs the discussion.
“She’s smart,” he said.
Green said he likes watching her mature. For instance, he recently encouraged her to order at restaurants herself instead of being too shy to do it, Green said.
“Now she’s got it down pat,” he said.
Spending time together and with cousins and grandparents is also a priority, Green said.
Green said he wants Jordyn to know his side of the family, as well as her mother’s side of the family.
“I want to let (people) know families do exist, it’s not just on TV,” Green said.
“There are lots of situations where children don’t know who their dad is, but it’s not like that over here.”
Green said he also wants to show his daughter something besides the importance of family.
“I want to show her that the world is a lot bigger than Natchez,” he said.
Green said he recently took Jordyn to the Audubon Aquarium in New Orleans.
Green would not say that he tries to shelter Jordyn, but if he does not agree with what other children are allowed to do or be exposed to, he will put his foot down.
“I tell her, ‘You’re my daughter,’ (not her friends’ parents’ daughter),” Green said.
For instance, Green said he does not approve of rap videos or lyrics, to which some children Jordyn’s age are exposed.
But instead of accepting rules at face value, Jordyn now requests, “Why?,” Green said.
“And I have to give her an intelligent answer, or there will be an argument,” he said, laughing.
“She’ll give me those puppy-dog eyes and say, ‘Well, I have an opinion about stuff,’” he said.
Green said his parents provided a blueprint for fatherhood, because they loved and supported him growing up.
Judging by how well Jordyn is doing as a second grader, Green said he knows she has a bright future.
“I know she is going to do something special,” he said.